Tuesday, September 29, 2009
I sit here tonight on the couch in tears missing my wife and knowing that come Thursday Eva and I start the next chapter of the adventure that Karen and I started, I miss Karen so much.
It is a chance for the grieving to start and for me to put the pieces back together and repair a very broken heart.
Thank you for all your messages of wishes and support, it is a challenge just to keep myself together over the next couple of days so I apologise if I don't get a chance to respond.
So back to reality, packing to finish, bottles to clean, silk underwear to hand wash and hopefully I have remembered everything, an adventure lies ahead and Eva and I will take the bull by the horns and as Frank sung, do it my (our) way.
See ya soon.
Monday, September 28, 2009
If you haven't had a chance to see us before we go then know that you are in our thoughts and we look forward to seeing you on our return.
Chris, Pat and Jane, Eva was so smiley and happy with you and looks forward to seeing you again soon.
Sunday, September 27, 2009
My user name is david_whyman, if you search it you will find me and if that fails email me yours and I will add you.
Saturday, September 26, 2009
Eva and I have until Thursday until we leave for a much needed and deserved break down south, many have asked why are we coming back to the UK, even after everything that has happened I love it and it is our home, all three of us.
To ensure the next five days in the UK are simple, stress free and happy if you feel a need to be in touch then please do so only if you have something positive to add to our life. I received a letter today from the two people that let Karen down more than anyone, to the point where Karen even had counselling to try and help how she dealt with it, they let her down even more in death, her parents! Hence why I am sending this email, they are the only people that I by choice will always exclude.
So going forward, all are welcome in our lives, Eva is often commented on by those that see and have seen her how she is always laughing and smiling, I want to keep at that way so be a part of lives if you bring laughter and won't let us down, if you think you might then please exit centre stage and let's go our separate ways.
If you are a parent you will understand that I will do anything possible to support, love and protect my daughter, anything.
It has been another hard week with all that has happened but I refuse to drag it forward from one week into the next.
I miss doing all this with not just someone but with Karen, I have an amazing, sometimes difficult life but with Karen it was complete.
Friday, September 25, 2009
Still not a happy camper but tomorrow is another day and the world hasn't beaten me so far so it not likely to now.
Thursday, September 24, 2009
Learn from my ignorance, there is a loop hole in the UK banking system, when you deposit a cheque they tell you it takes 5 days to clear, after 5 days the cheque clears and you can withdraw funds against it, but, for another two days the bank can reverse the cheque leaving you out of pocket for what you have withdrawn.
In my case the fraudsters relied on me thinking once the cheque was cleared no matter what the money was mine, unfortunately the bank then reversed the cheque believing it to be suss and having already sent the money to the shipping agent I was up shit creek. My bank account is in OD and my mortgage payment didn't go through, nice, as I have my money in ING I can't get access for three days so up shit creek with no paddle.
So in short the if you deposit a cheque in the UK leave it 7 business days not 5 even though the money is cleared as it can be taken away, if someone gives you a cheque then pushes hard after 5 days to withdraw and pay then they know this and are screwing you.
The worst thing for me, I cant afford to loose £4200 and need every cent / penny for what lies ahead.
I will fight to get back what I can but don't hold much hope, if you work in law or the banking system in the UK and feel you can help then please help it is Eva's money they have and that piss's me off.
So there you have it, how to loose money fast, I cant work out how the bank can clear it and then reverse it, part of the fight I know have to have, jesus christ is life just keen on kicking the shit out of me or what, now I have a week today until I go and so much more to sort, the worst thing is I had so many offers for my car, I am shattered, what the hell is the point in it all.
The reason for telling you all, don't get caught like I have, my bad experience can at least help others.
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Wednesday, September 23, 2009
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The physio came around as well and all is good on that front so onwards and upwards, bring on the land of the long white cloud.
We also tried out our keep Eva occupied strategy, a baby blinks DVD kindly sent to us by the one and only Tizzie Hall, go the Save Our Sleep guru, it is incredible, Eva interacts with it, laughs, talks and hopefully learns, I will upload a video later of her transfixed, it is a nice change but not a substitute for Eva from me and the play matt.
Lastly a huge thank you to Teresa, your support, company and friendship has made me and Eva feel normal and has been extremely special, thank you again.
Saturday, September 19, 2009
Thursday, September 17, 2009
Wednesday, September 16, 2009
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
Eva and I are getting better at living with each other and would both agree we have got it pretty much sorted after a really tough few months, she is very much Eva and I will be careful not to feel she is anything else.
I am sure it won't be long until we are racing each other along the street and I am sure Eva will be frustrated until she can beat me.
Saturday, September 12, 2009
Thursday, September 10, 2009
Wednesday, September 9, 2009
Monday, September 7, 2009
Wednesday, September 2, 2009
I wish both Karen and I could have met Julie under different circumstances but that is very much life.
Whenever I need her she is there, to talk, to chat or look after Eva for an hour while I go for a much needed head clearing run.
A hug thank you to Julie for all you have and continue to do.