Tuesday, September 29, 2009

Let the grieving process begin!

Two more sleeps and the thought of leaving brings both joy and tears, Karen and I came here together, we had amazing life, we made a home and a life, we brought Eva into this world, cancer came back, Karen passed away and tonight I pack for Eva and I to leave for while and without Karen.

I sit here tonight on the couch in tears missing my wife and knowing that come Thursday Eva and I start the next chapter of the adventure that Karen and I started, I miss Karen so much.

It is a chance for the grieving to start and for me to put the pieces back together and repair a very broken heart.

Thank you for all your messages of wishes and support, it is a challenge just to keep myself together over the next couple of days so I apologise if I don't get a chance to respond.

So back to reality, packing to finish, bottles to clean, silk underwear to hand wash and hopefully I have remembered everything, an adventure lies ahead and Eva and I will take the bull by the horns and as Frank sung, do it my (our) way.

Its all coming together

The last minute bits and pieces are in place and all that remains is the logistics of getting everything to the plane and more importantly Eva's 112ml food pouches through, would be a bit of a bummer to have those taken at customs, we will see.

See ya soon.

Monday, September 28, 2009

Great Auntie's and Uncles

Only two days to go, wow toooooo much to do and not enough time, we have at least been able to see all of the UK great Auntie's and uncles and very special it has been indeed, just think the next time you see Eva she will be walking.

If you haven't had a chance to see us before we go then know that you are in our thoughts and we look forward to seeing you on our return.

Chris, Pat and Jane, Eva was so smiley and happy with you and looks forward to seeing you again soon.

If it doesn't fit in here its not coming!

Sunday, September 27, 2009


For those of you not on skype and likely to be some distance from Eva and I then to be blunt get it sorted, I would hate you to miss crawling and walking, photos and videos are great but being and seeing virtually in person is unbeatable, besides it is free.

My user name is david_whyman, if you search it you will find me and if that fails email me yours and I will add you.

Go Cadel, world champion, isn't he a Kiwi !?

Saturday, September 26, 2009

No more drama in my life

This is like a dear john letter but to all and sundry.

Eva and I have until Thursday until we leave for a much needed and deserved break down south, many have asked why are we coming back to the UK, even after everything that has happened I love it and it is our home, all three of us.

To ensure the next five days in the UK are simple, stress free and happy if you feel a need to be in touch then please do so only if you have something positive to add to our life. I received a letter today from the two people that let Karen down more than anyone, to the point where Karen even had counselling to try and help how she dealt with it, they let her down even more in death, her parents! Hence why I am sending this email, they are the only people that I by choice will always exclude.

So going forward, all are welcome in our lives, Eva is often commented on by those that see and have seen her how she is always laughing and smiling, I want to keep at that way so be a part of lives if you bring laughter and won't let us down, if you think you might then please exit centre stage and let's go our separate ways.

If you are a parent you will understand that I will do anything possible to support, love and protect my daughter, anything.

When its stunning here it is a hard place to beat.

What a day, sun, warm, a ride for an hour this morning and now hanging out at the cafe.

It has been another hard week with all that has happened but I refuse to drag it forward from one week into the next.

I miss doing all this with not just someone but with Karen, I have an amazing, sometimes difficult life but with Karen it was complete.

Friday, September 25, 2009

Contact details

Not sure if everybody has my correct contact details but with my movements over the next months here goes:

Email - david.whyman@hotmail.com
Email Work - davidw@stgroup.com
Mobile - 07984 533 290

Still not a happy camper but tomorrow is another day and the world hasn't beaten me so far so it not likely to now.

Thursday, September 24, 2009

Fraudsters utilising the UK banking system

Dear All,

Learn from my ignorance, there is a loop hole in the UK banking system, when you deposit a cheque they tell you it takes 5 days to clear, after 5 days the cheque clears and you can withdraw funds against it, but, for another two days the bank can reverse the cheque leaving you out of pocket for what you have withdrawn.

In my case the fraudsters relied on me thinking once the cheque was cleared no matter what the money was mine, unfortunately the bank then reversed the cheque believing it to be suss and having already sent the money to the shipping agent I was up shit creek. My bank account is in OD and my mortgage payment didn't go through, nice, as I have my money in ING I can't get access for three days so up shit creek with no paddle.

So in short the if you deposit a cheque in the UK leave it 7 business days not 5 even though the money is cleared as it can be taken away, if someone gives you a cheque then pushes hard after 5 days to withdraw and pay then they know this and are screwing you.

The worst thing for me, I cant afford to loose £4200 and need every cent / penny for what lies ahead.

I will fight to get back what I can but don't hold much hope, if you work in law or the banking system in the UK and feel you can help then please help it is Eva's money they have and that piss's me off.

Life can get harder

If Karen dying and bringing up eva on my own isn't enough I have just been defrauded of £7700, nice!!!  Long story short, I need to sell my car as there is not much point in leaving it here for 6 months, got an offer for £3500, agreed, they sent me a cheque for £7700, I though it was a bit suss but figured as long as i let it clear then it cant be any risk, once it was cleared by the bank I then withdrew £4200 and sent it via Western Union to their shipping agent, in the meantime the bank has reversed the cheque.
So there you have it, how to loose money fast, I cant work out how the bank can clear it and then reverse it, part of the fight I know have to have, jesus christ is life just keen on kicking the shit out of me or what, now I have a week today until I go and so much more to sort, the worst thing is I had so many offers for my car, I am shattered, what the hell is the point in it all.
The reason for telling you all, don't get caught like I have, my bad experience can at least help others.

Check on MSN NZ Money for a hand Feeling the financial pinch?

Wednesday, September 23, 2009

It doesn't get any easier than this.


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His & Hers dinner

Mine is cold but at least tonight it is easier as being a little organised (yes me) I cook lots then I can cover two nights, as for Eva, Swede and Butternut followed by apple, a feeding frenzy it will be.

Go baby blinks, once again THANK YOU Tizzie (SOS)


Find someone to snuggle up with Brrr... its getting cold out there

Growing fast

The big weigh day, Jenny the health visitor came around and as of today Eva is 5.98kgs or for you old schoolers 13 3 1/2 lbs, they are more than happy with how she is going and growing.

The physio came around as well and all is good on that front so onwards and upwards, bring on the land of the long white cloud.

We also tried out our keep Eva occupied strategy, a baby blinks DVD kindly sent to us by the one and only Tizzie Hall, go the Save Our Sleep guru, it is incredible, Eva interacts with it, laughs, talks and hopefully learns, I will upload a video later of her transfixed, it is a nice change but not a substitute for Eva from me and the play matt.

Lastly a huge thank you to Teresa, your support, company and friendship has made me and Eva feel normal and has been extremely special, thank you again.

Thursday, September 17, 2009

The worlds tallest sun flower

It has to be, now 2.5m and finally now a sun flower instead of a tree, we grew this from a 5cm high junior and together we nurtured it, well not really.

Wednesday, September 16, 2009

Eva makes half a year

It is hard to believe but Eva is six months today, the hard part is over and as she grows and develops her own personality, sits, crawls and walks it goes from being mundane and hard work to interesting and challenging, I look forward to sharing what will be the biggest six months of change to come ending in her 1st birthday.

Not my best side

All tucked up, it is getting cold already

Tuesday, September 15, 2009

Living without

It is over two months now since Karen departed for fairer shores and not a moment goes by that I don't miss her even more, Eva's eyes have just changed colour and the hardest thing is they a all Karen's so it is like looking into her eyes that last moment all over again.

Eva and I are getting better at living with each other and would both agree we have got it pretty much sorted after a really tough few months, she is very much Eva and I will be careful not to feel she is anything else.

I am sure it won't be long until we are racing each other along the street and I am sure Eva will be frustrated until she can beat me.

Monday, September 14, 2009

Monday, September 7, 2009

Moving up in the world

Its time to get out of the pram and into the pushchair, a few clicks and the conversion complete, as always Eva sleeps irrespective.

Wednesday, September 2, 2009

The people that make a difference

I had the pleasure of meeting the most amazing woman while Karen was in the hospice, Julie has been an inspiration, support and friend and has made my life so much easier.

I wish both Karen and I could have met Julie under different circumstances but that is very much life.

Whenever I need her she is there, to talk, to chat or look after Eva for an hour while I go for a much needed head clearing run.

A hug thank you to Julie for all you have and continue to do.